Have you ever felt like everything was getting on top of you?
That all you want to do is just stop, get off the roller coaster, recuperate and figure out how you got yourself to this point in the first place?
In our continually demanding and ever changing world that we live in, it is easy to feel under pressure and as if the control within your life is slipping away from you.
No two people are a like
We all experience and cope with external pressures in different ways. Some people are fortunate not be fazed under substantial pressure. While the large majority of us aren’t as fortunate and minor setbacks in our lives can result in our confidence and wellbeing being greatly impacted upon.
The skills and ability to deal with setbacks and challenges such as a relationship break up, pressing deadlines, financial difficulties and family or workplace stress is called 'resilience' and has to be developed further for most people.
Resilience is often termed the ability to bounce back under adverse pressure. This is true, but it gives the impression that being resilient is only needed and practiced when challenged. But that's not the case!
Having the ability to cope well and maintain a healthy balance of wellbeing when faced with all the daily challenges and heartache life throws at you is called everyday resilience.
Everyday resilience is a way of being – it is a deliberate and conscious choice to live your life in a particular way to help you maintain mental energy and wellbeing, manage everyday pressures and to live a satisfying and fulfilling life.
The 5 Key areas of resilience
There are 5 key areas within our everyday resilience that can either keep us strong or hold us back from being at our best. It’s important to be aware of these areas and strengthen them, so that you can remain well and balanced despite life's pressure or challenges.
The 5 key areas are Mind-set, Confidence, Moral Compass, Control & Support. Click on the links below to learn more about each area.
- Maintain a Positive mindset
- Boost your confidence
- Stay in control
- Find your moral compass
- Building your tower of support
MAINTAIN A POSITIVE MIND-SET
This is about having or developing a positive and encouraging mind-set that enables you to approach challenges with an optimistic attitude and enables you to remain confident, calm and motivated.
Having a mind-set that focuses on solutions to problems as opposed to dwelling on problems has a great impact upon your outlook and wellbeing, especially when experiencing pressures or difficulties in life. Nobody likes the 3am worries!
BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE
Believing in yourself and your ability to do well is essential if you are to feel good about yourself and succeed even when challenged by difficulties.
How we view and speak about ourselves has a great impact upon how we interact with others and succeed in life.
STAY IN CONTROL
Being aware and able to identify yours and other people’s emotions is a game changer. It enables you to be able to manage and negotiate how you want to react to situations and people.
This has a great impact not only on your relationships with others but on your overall wellbeing when dealing with life’s difficulties.
FIND YOUR MORAL COMPASS
Being aware of what is important to you and knowing the direction of which you wish to take in life.
Developing this area enables you to stay on track and focus more on what is important, enabling you to see beyond a current difficulty.
BUILDING YOUR TOWER OF SUPPORT
This is very much about being aware of your limitations or needs and getting support to meet them, supporting others with their needs and carrying out what I call ‘healthy selfishness’ – looking after you first and then giving to others.
This key element of everyday resilience supports you to support yourself and others to be better equipped for all that life throws at you
How resilient are you?
If you'd like to learn more about your own 'everyday resilience' why not take my ‘How resilient are you?’ questionnaire to help you to gain some insight into what your strengths and areas of need are within the 5 key areas. It is accompanied with 25 suggestions and activities to help you boost your resilience should you need it! Click on the 'Yes Please' button below to learn more.
Ursula Wood is a Stress & Overwhelm Certified-Coach from sunny West Yorkshire, U.K, who works with hardworking individuals who get to a point in their lives where they feel and say "...I can't cope anymore".
She owns her own business called Your Expert Self, which specialises in providing practical stress & overwhelm coaching-based workshops, resources and support, both in-person and online. Ursula loves the outdoors and can often be found out running or walking, especially in green spaces.